Wednesday, December 31, 2008
It was snowing, all pretty-like, and now it's stopped.
I may make a cauliflower/tofu/tomato/pea concoction for lunch. If I make it, and it's good, I'll let you know.
And also...I really liked Matrimony by Joshua Henkin. You might want to check it out.
Saturday, December 27, 2008
So I trekked to Barnes & Noble (a better store, but further away) and couldn't find it. I was dejected until a saleslady came up to me and offered to help, explaining that not all of their fiction was on display. I explained the situation and she was enraged. "Oh my God!" she said, looking at the empty pages. "This is defective! It was probably a whole print run." She found a mass-market edition in another section, and actually gave me a store credit for the difference in price between that and my trade paperback - about $6. She kept trying to scan my old copy in and it wouldn't work, so I mentioned again that it was from Borders. That didn't seem to bother her, and she typed the PLU number (or whatever) in manually. I can't believe I actually made money on this! Kudos to B&N for their kindness.
Friday, December 26, 2008
D left the room and came back with his iPhone. He quickly determined that PP still exists.
Which brings me to...pregnancy. We are probably going to have another baby (not imminently, but within the next 2 years). The thing is, and I know this is shallow and we're not supposed to think about this stuff, but I don't want to gain 47 lbs again. So...those of you who have more than one kid...did you gain the same amount of weight each time? Based on some cursory research I've done (with a small sample size), people seem to gain more weight when they're carrying boys.
Thursday, December 25, 2008
I talked with my mother and sister on the phone, then took E to the grocery store to get ingredients for tonight's dinner (bowtie pasta with green beans and red wine-tomato sauce, sprinkled with Parmesan). It was unexpectedly balmy outside. For lunch, D and I will probably take E to a diner. And I'll get my family Christmas celebration in January.
Merry Christmas, everyone...
Tuesday, December 23, 2008
I'm a little sad about it, but we decided to make lemonade out of lemons. Health permitting, we might go ice skating on Christmas. It's such a quintessentially New York thing to do, but we've never done it. I haven't been skating in years. Of course, one of us will hold E while the other one skates.
I participated in LibraryThing's Secret Santa exchange, a fun diversion. My Secret Santa sent me Beginner's Greek. I sent mine The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Society. No word on whether she's gotten it yet.
Friday, December 19, 2008
We had a nice dinner with two of our friends. I am dying for them to get married. They are so well suited. And they are kid friendly! Some people without babies are scared of them. But they're not. They both love E. E gnawed on the breadbasket and had some applesauce that I brought with me.
I hate to admit it, but the dreaded CIO (crying it out) appears to work. We tried it once, when he was 2 1/2 months old, and lasted an hour. We felt sure we had made a mistake trying it at all, but he slept a 6-hour stretch for the first time the next night.
Last night, we tried it again. I had just given him a huge "meal" and D happened to wake him up by coughing. So I knew he wasn't hungry. Against D's objections, I let him cry it out. We lasted an hour and felt sure we had made a mistake. (Sound familiar?) But tonight, he did an 8-hour stretch.
Monday, December 15, 2008
I've learned that E prefers avocado to just about everything, although he also likes banana (but not frozen), sweet potato, pear, and butternut squash (though it must be pureed enough, and if frozen, it must be frozen in a closed container, not an open-air ice cube tray). It's best to give him something to play with (a block, etc.) as he eats. That will make him open his mouth spontaneously. Also, he prefers to have his mouth wiped with a napkin, rather than a bib. I got a little banana in his nose this morning, but he forgave me (and I got it out).
Friday, December 12, 2008
Today was a little - okay, a lot - horrifying. I was pushing E in his stroller and we went down the little ramp for handicapped people (you know, the little decline at the edge of the sidewalk). At the bottom of the ramp was a puddle, which concealed a bump. I tripped and the stroller pitched forward. It was awful. A woman helped me get it upright again. I was frantic. She said, "He's not hurt, just scared." I don't know how I'm going to survive the first bruise, etc. And God forbid he plays football. I don't think it's big in New York, anyway.
Tuesday, December 09, 2008
Monday, December 08, 2008
That's not the reason why I want another one, though. I do love babies. I think they're cute and cuddly and fun. The only real downside is the sleep (sort of) deprivation. More like sleep interruption. But I realize I can't complain. I haven't had a sleepless night since he was born. Even when he was a newborn, he slept for chunks of the night. And he doesn't have colic. Both D and I did, so we were lucky to escape it.
Which brings us to names. We had a hard enough time agreeing on E's name. Names bandied about on the way home: Colin, Conor, Ethan, and Joseph. Neither of us agreed on any name. We have a rough road ahead of us...
Sunday, December 07, 2008
It's part of the tradition of the party that "Santa" (usually one of my male cousins) gives presents to the wee ones. E got a little duck that flaps its wings as you push it along. When E was summoned to the front of the room, he smiled at everybody on the way. Then when he sat on Santa's lap (maybe because of Santa's bellowing voice), his face crumpled up like a little Kleenex and he burst into tears. As soon as he was in D's arms, good humor was restored.
We also visited my oldest aunt (92) at the nursing home. We found a card table in an activity room, where we changed E's diaper. The trash had some discarded crafts in it, which were soon joined by E's dirty diaper. "I hope that's really trash, and not storage," said my mom.
Thursday, December 04, 2008
I think I enjoyed the trip more because it involved walking (after I got off the subway) and you feel good after walking. Not like a taxi ride when your nerves are singing.
Anyway, I feel like my pediatrician is a mixed bag. She went to a great medical school and she is very careful and thorough. I trust her to take good care of E. Yet we have philosophical differences. She is a big fan of crying it out. She feels that E should be sleeping 10-11 hours uninterrupted every night.
I don't know how realistic this is for every 6-month-old. Sometimes he does do that. Other times he wakes up. Last night I decided not to feed him when he woke up. He went back to sleep after a little comforting from D and ended up sleeping a total of 11 hours, with that one interruption. I don't think this is terrible. Psychologically it is very hard to let your kid cry it out. D said he only had to comfort him for about 10 minutes. And sometimes a pacifier will do it.
I think she is going by the book. I don't think she has kids. Until you have a kid, you don't know what the sound of him crying will do to you.
Wednesday, December 03, 2008
I like LibraryThing, also - you can write reviews, get free books, etc. I was reading some other people's reviews and came across a reader who didn't like To Kill a Mockingbird quite as much the second time around. The first time she read it, at age 14, she thought it was the best book ever. I have to admit I never *loved* TKAM. The books I loved that were assigned in high school were Catcher in the Rye and Gatsby. What books did you like from your high school curriculum?
I made a new recipe tonight (new to us). It's basically cauliflower, penne, tomato cream sauce with herbs, and some Parmesan, which is then sprinkled with breadcrumbs dipped in olive oil and baked. Yummy.
Tuesday, December 02, 2008
Monday, December 01, 2008
- We're going to MA this weekend for the family Christmas party. Because of the numerous-ity of my mom's side of the family, they rent a hall. Everyone brings an appetizer or dessert and fun is usually had by all. Here's hoping the trip does not destroy E's sleeping schedule. He has taken to sleeping 10-11 hours a night, waking up once to feed, and waking up another time to get his diaper changed. I'll take it.
- I just finished Knit Two by Kate Jacobs and really liked it. It was a sequel to the Friday Night Knitting Club.
- I'm wondering what's the earliest age a child can enjoy Disney World - thoughts? D and I have different ideas on the matter.
- So far, E seems to prefer avocado to butternut squash, banana and rice cereal (all fed to him separately, of course). He weighs 21 pounds. Update: he is eating the butternut squash! Yay...
Thursday, November 27, 2008
It is absolutely true what they say about babies preferring household objects to toys. E adores Cheerio boxes and water bottles. My SIL came across a study about this - she says it's because the household object is more of a blank slate, and therefore stimulates the imagination more.
Wednesday, November 26, 2008
I'm worried that Facebook is going to overtake Blogger. It's the lazy (wo)man's Blogger. On Facebook, you can toss off witty one-liners instead of writing a fully-baked blog post. It's a low-effort way to keep in touch and keep up with other people's lives.
Happy Thanksgiving to everyone. When I read Please Excuse My Daughter, I came across the Jewish concept of kinehora. I realized I had been an unwitting adherent of kinehora for years. Basically, people who believe in kinehora won't acknowledge aloud the good things in their lives for fear that they will be taken away. It's very superstitious. And so am I! So I won't enumerate the good things in my life, but I'm grateful for them.
Sunday, November 23, 2008
I *still* feel a little guilty about E's circumcision, but D's cousin's husband told me a story that put my mind at ease. He said his friend wasn't circumcised, and is too afraid to do it now, but he wishes it had been done when he was a baby. I told him how E has a new habit of grabbing his man parts in the bath and digging his nails in a little. I trim his talons religiously, but his poor man parts still get a bit red.
D's cousin's husband: He's going to be tough!
Me (changing topic without segue): And he's huge!
D's cousin's husband: Really!
Of course, I just meant E's size in general. He is almost 6 months old and wearing 12-month clothing.
Thursday, November 20, 2008
Sweet Potato Risotto - You have to try this recipe for the whole family! Easily adaptable to feed the 8 month old + baby, sweet potato risotto is a meal in itself and very very tasty!
2 medium sweet potatoes
¼ cup olive oil, divided
4 cups hot vegetable stock, divided
½ cup finely chopped onion
1 tablespoon minced garlic
1½ cups arborio rice (12-ounce package)
¾ cup white wine (white grape juice will suffice)
1 tablespoon fresh rosemary
1½ teaspoons thyme leaves
3 tablespoons butter
2 tablespoons grated Parmesan cheese
1 teaspoon salt
¾ teaspoons black pepper
Preheat oven to 350 F.
Peel sweet potatoes and cut in half. Cut half the sweet potatoes into ¼-inch diced and set aside. Cut the remaining sweet potatoes into 1-inch chunks. Toss with 1 tablespoon olive oil and roast until soft about 30 minutes. Puree in a food processor with ¼ cup chicken stock. Reserve.
In a large saucepan heat remaining 3 tablespoons oil, and sauté onion and small diced sweet potatoes over medium high heat. Cook about 3 minutes until softened but not browned. Add garlic and arborio rice and cook 2-3 minutes stirring frequently. Stir in wine or white grape juice. Cook, stirring until completely absorbed.
In the same manner add hot stock, ½ cup at a time, stirring until each addition is completely absorbed and stock is used up. Add sweet potato puree, rosemary, thyme, butter and Parmesan. Simmer on low for 10 minutes or until your risotto is soft and all liquid has been absorbed! Season to taste with pepper if desired.
Of course, I'll have to make it when D is away or something, since he hates all vegetables in the orange family (except carrots). My mother said once that couples never like all the same food. However, we are both vegetarians and both usually dislike eggplant.
Tuesday, November 18, 2008
After class, my friend and I went to Cosi where I got a tasty salad with pistachios and grapes in it, and then we headed to Central Park. It's one of my favorite places in the city, but I haven't been there since E was born. We sat and talked near Strawberry Fields, and we were looking at these black, gnarled trees with bright yellow leaves and all these picturesque pathways. It's one of those places where you can't tell you're in the city. It definitely cleared the gunk out of my soul.
Then our bathtub overflowed. D started to fill the tub while I stripped E down for his bath. We both got distracted, chatting, and suddenly there was an ocean on the (hardwood) hallway floor. We sprang into action with a mop, but it was ineffectual. So we grabbed towels and started sopping up the mess and wringing them out. Then maintenance appeared, unbidden, and helped out. Apparently the people who lived beneath us had alerted them.
The bathtub problem is fixed now. Hopefully the computer will be soon, too.
Friday, November 14, 2008
I saw EH strolling down the avenue where I live, looking very debonair. He has gained maybe 5 pounds, bringing him up from "gaunt" to "thin." He looked good.
I do feel like I know him by now. Maybe I should arrange a play date with E and his kids? I heard he just had a new baby...
And he lives just a few blocks away (or so I'm told).
Wednesday, November 12, 2008
Some dude hit on me when I was pushing E in his stroller - a bizarre occurrence. Some women have written in books that men back away from strollers as if they were a disease. That has not been my experience, but this was the first time some guy said in front of the stroller that I was "cute," "looked like the girl in that Woody Allen movie, Take the Money and Run" and asked if I wanted "to go talk somewhere." I'm not sure the Janet Margolin comparison was accurate, but I'll take it. I guess we look alike in the "long dark hair" sense.
Pics of E forthcoming...
Sunday, November 09, 2008
I had my first drink since June '07 - a strawberry margarita at a restaurant near here. Actually, I just had a few sips. It was D's drink. He was very magnanimous.
Fall is usually my favorite season, but it can be depressing too. I guess the leaves falling are a natural metaphor for death. (Sorry, that is incredibly morbid.) We did just receive news that 2 people died - I didn't know either of them, but I know people affected by it. I do think the person calling should've held the news till we got home, but this person is not very, um, trainable.
Thursday, November 06, 2008
Last night was not the best. E is generally sleeping 8 hours a night, but last night he did about 6, and D came to bed much later than me, waking me up, and then snoring a little (though he flipped on his side, which solved the problem). I really would not mind sleeping for, like, a week. Or a day.
I got my roots done yesterday (some gray was coming in again) and I have to say, having your hair washed by someone else is deeply relaxing. I nearly drifted off then and there. Though the hair-washing girl seemed to take my decision not to get the "treatment" (post-color application that smells like chemical berries and makes me sneeze, and also costs $25) personally. The hairdresser, by contrast, was sympathetic to the whole allergy issue.
Am reading a good book - The Sharper Your Knife, The Less You Cry. The somewhat ominous title just refers to slicing onions.
Tuesday, November 04, 2008
Sunday, November 02, 2008
Saturday, November 01, 2008
Friday, October 31, 2008
I also have some cute pics of E trying to crawl...to be posted! (Okay, that was one more.)
Thursday, October 30, 2008
I'm afraid to change his next diaper, though.
*There's a rift in the American Academy of Pediatrics about this - some say 4 months, some say 6. E is almost 5 months old - and wearing 9-month onesies!
One book that was *not* worth the hype for me was Water for Elephants. Everyone recommended this book to me - bloggers, MIL, Pilates teacher. I took it out of the library three times and could not get interested.
One book that *was* worth the hype, a few years back, was Michael Chabon's Amazing Adventures of Kavalier and Clay. I'm waiting to see if The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Society will be worth it.
What's your experience with hyped books?
Wednesday, October 29, 2008
Am toying with the idea of someday, when I have some time, getting a graduate degree in psychology, with an eye toward becoming a therapist/counselor or child psychologist. I have my eye on a school, too. The problem is, the Master's courses look fantastic; the Ph.D. classes, not so much. And the school seems to have set them up as two different programs (Master's classes at night for working folk, Ph.D. courses during the day for full-time students). I'd rather just get the Master's, but we'll see. I emailed the program director to get the skinny.
Monday, October 27, 2008
But today I bought a pair of size 6 jeans because the 8s were falling off. That was a good feeling.
And here are some cute pics of E with my Brooklyn friend's boy-child, also named E:
*We took E on the subway for the first time, after a friend reassured me that she took her baby on the subway and it was fine. The reason? We were going up to Washington Heights to see another friend's new baby, and man, that is a trek. The journey up was fine, as he slept most of the way and was good-humored for the rest. The way back, we had to hold him and he squawked a few times, but everyone admired him. We were sitting next to a boy and a girl who were reading about POE (process of elimination) in an SAT practice book by the Princeton Review. That made me feel OLD. Or maybe just very, very far away from my high school years.
*A couple days ago, a friend from Brooklyn brought her baby over. I hadn't seen him since he weighed 11 pounds, and E was 8 or 9 pounds. Now my E is bigger than her E, who was born in April. I got a picture of them holding hands. I'll try to post it later.
*At the visit yesterday, M stepped on the scale with E and without, and we determined that he weighs a little over 19 1/2 pounds. It also came out that I've never been to a Mommy and Me class. Maybe I should remedy this.
Friday, October 24, 2008
Wednesday, October 22, 2008
Suddenly, he said, "Mmm, paper."
"There was paper in your burrito?"
"You shouldn't eat paper!" I said. "That's called pica - the craving for non-food items."
"Well, I definitely don't crave it," he said.
"Then why did you eat it?" Then the pieces fell into place. "You ate the paper with your PIN number on it," I said. My husband is into security, but this was taking things a little too far.
"I didn't want ___ to find it," he said. ____ is the building porter who does occasionally pluck Maxim* out of the recycling bin. I guess D was afraid he was interested in PIN numbers as well.
*D wanted me to make it clear that:
a) The Maxim in the building-wide recycling bin is not his.
b) I saw him put the paper on his tongue and eat it.
Monday, October 20, 2008
In other news, I got the hiccups in front of E. I thought it might scare him - he can be sensitive to sounds - but he giggled.
Friday, October 17, 2008
R took a lot of fantastic pictures which he promised to send me as soon as they get back to Florida. He captured E in full smile. Meanwhile, I am getting into cooking again after a long, long hiatus...last night I made capellini with tomato pesto, and now I am making a bok choy-tomato-tofu stirfry to be served over rice with peanut sauce.
Thursday, October 16, 2008
A friend from college who now lives in Florida is coming to visit tomorrow, and a Brooklyn friend is bringing her baby over on Monday. So who knows, maybe you'll see some cute baby pictures.
Monday, October 13, 2008
So at D's urging, I went to see the chiropractor. He helped a LOT. He explained it was a muscle spasm, not a herniated disc or anything. He massaged the place where it hurt and said, "WOW. You got a knot." He also said it didn't look like I'd had a kid (always gratifying).
Finished Philip Roth's Indignation. Well-written but depressing. And now for something completely different...Candace Bushnell's One Fifth Avenue.
Saturday, October 11, 2008
Last night we went to the White Horse Tavern (famous in a morbid way - I think it is the last place Dylan Thomas drank before he died). The atmosphere there is always cheerful, though. They have outdoor seating so we were able to bring E and hang out with our friends (A's girlfriend was celebrating getting a new job). It was odd and fun all at once to be out on a Friday night with ADULTS, and nice not to have to leave E behind.
I'm reading Philip Roth's new book, Indignation - I like it, even though the narrator is a bit of a nut. He's so intense, you can feel it floating up from the pages.
Wednesday, October 08, 2008
I have this itch to travel. Usually D and I go away in March to Miami, but now I am toying with the idea of Maui. I've never been. But a 12-hour flight...probably not smart. However, I asked the pediatrician about plane travel for babies, and she said a long flight can actually be better because there are no quick changes in air pressure. That is, a lot of time would elapse between takeoff and landing (the phases when air pressure fluctuation can bother a baby). She said you want to nurse a baby at those times, if possible - "it's the baby equivalent of chewing gum." Anyway, because of the length of the flight, she said Maui might actually be better than Miami. "Of course, then you have to deal with sitting on a plane that long," she said. So who knows what we will do. But one thing's for sure...I need an adventure.
Tuesday, October 07, 2008
I suspect I am in for a rough night tonight. E decided to sleep a bunch during the day. After he had got 2 full naps in, I woke him up to feed (4 hours had elapsed since the beginning of his last feeding - I wouldn't have woken him up if it were night, of course). He fell asleep again. I put him in the stroller and we walked through the usual noise and chaos of New York City. He slept.
As we approached our apartment building, two policeman set up a Caution - Do Not Cross yellow police tape. Behind the police tape, there were some large trees. City workers started to hack off the branches with buzz saws. The branches clattered onto the sidewalk. The workers yelled to each other as they brandished their buzzing saws.
Monday, October 06, 2008
The cabbie was enmeshed in family drama - his wife called from the hospital (she's been there for 2 weeks) and asked the cabbie to call their 2 sons and have them call her. (Why didn't she call them herself? Who knows.) So the cabbie tracked them down - both lawyers - and said, "I know you're busy, but take 2 minutes to call your mutha."
Saturday, October 04, 2008
Friday, October 03, 2008
E generally likes to recline on the Boppy pillow, but now he is happier when sitting up. At 4 months! (I am totally going to be one of those annoying mothers who brags about everything. I can tell.)
I am trying out different types of music on him. It seems like he prefers Astrud Gilberto to Elton John.
On Monday the 13th, my friend T is going to visit me with her baby E. He is older than my E, but I wonder...who will be bigger?
Poppy and E:
E was very taken with Poppy. As soon as I heard her voice on the phone, I knew he would like "talking" with her (he prefers women's voices, particularly soft ones).
We took him out for dinner last night, just across the street. It's funny, whenever he fusses at this particular restaurant, I take him upstairs and we look at the framed reviews on the wall and the tops of the diners' heads. He seems to really enjoy it.
Thursday, October 02, 2008
But when I got home, the babysitter assured me this was not the case. She is one of those people you feel comfortable with right away, so I let my neuroticism hang out :)
Wednesday, October 01, 2008
But when she came to our door, I saw that she was a brunette and not the same person. She was bubbly and friendly and we chatted for a while. Finally, I said, "I have a confession to make...I Googled you and found this debutante picture."
She said, "Oh yeah, I did that in June."
I said, "Really? 'Cause it looked like you had red hair!"
She said, "Oh no, it's always been brown. I never dyed it."
Now I'll have to find the real her in the picture...
P.S. I figured it out. The caption writer and I had different opinions on what constitutes "top row" and "bottom row."
Sunday, September 28, 2008
Unfortunately, a grueling flight with a baby is probably a bad idea. Although our friend R told us Hawaii is very family-friendly...lots of couples, some with children. Has anyone traveled long-distance with a baby and lived to tell the tale?
If it weren't so far away, I would have gone there already!
Also, I'm really enjoying the book I'm reading - Nice To Come Home To by Rebecca Flowers. It's a relief because the last few books I read weren't so good.
Saturday, September 27, 2008
D pretends not to like SATC for some reason. Maybe he thinks it would be unmanly. But he came over and watched the ending and then peppered me with questions. No one can resist well-done cheese. At one point, it almost brought tears to my eyes...Carrie behaved unselfishly for the first time ;)
Friday, September 26, 2008
The bad news: He fell asleep at 4:30 pm.
Hopefully in time we can get him to bed at a normal hour...but he seems to decide when he's going to do his "long shift." He definitely has a mind of his own :)
Thursday, September 25, 2008
The one sour note: "LOVE her!" exclaimed the reporter, and then she noticed E's blue onesie and socks. "Him," she quickly amended.
E slept through the whole thing. When he finally did wake up, many blocks later, he was rhythmically licking the sun hood on the Ergo carrier. He makes me laugh :)
Monday, September 22, 2008
P.S. Ok...maybe it does. He just needed some more.
Saturday, September 20, 2008
The color's a little darker than it was before, but subtle enough that no one noticed it until I pointed it out.
Then the doctor left and the receptionist decided to take an interest in the baby. "Do you have any pictures?" she asked D.
D whipped out his iPhone and showed the receptionist a picture. "What plump thighs!" said the receptionist.
Then D realized he had shown her a picture of my friend G's baby (taken at the baby gathering this past weekend). He was too embarrassed to correct his mistake. Incidentally, both of our babies have plump thighs :)
Friday, September 19, 2008
This morning I tried again - singing the song in my normal voice. He liked it, and even leaned forward as if he were trying to eat the song.
He has no use for classical.
Tuesday, September 16, 2008
Sunday, September 14, 2008
On Friday, D and I headed up to the great north. The Acela was packed heading out of Penn Station. I was only able to get a seat in the quiet car (!) and D got one in the cafe car. When I sat down, I noticed the signs and said involuntarily, "This is the quiet car? Oh, damn," but the people near me laughed and reassured me that it was ok. And E promptly fell asleep.
A couple of stops later, a conductor offered to reunite D and me in a non-quiet car. E woke up, but was placid. We shared a four-top with a couple of older women who fell in love with D. One of them wanted to hold E, and she seemed harmless, so I let her. Plus, she was next to me, on the inside seat, so she would have needed to climb over me if she were trying to steal him away ;)
The train ride was uneventful; I fed him a bunch of times, and that was about it. However, E does not like cars. That was my biggest misconception before having a baby. I thought they were passive, preference-less creatures.
Today we had the baby gathering at the country club. Most of my cousins, aunts and uncles came to welcome E. A couple of friends from high school who still live in MA also came. It was great to see them. One of them has a blog where she'll probably put up pictures soon. I also have a good one of my niece and E, which I will try to post eventually.